A victim of domestic violence may act in ways that seem incomprehensible
to people not aware of the dynamics of abuse. The victim may not understand his or
her actions, denying the abuse in a desperate attempt for self preservation.
The abuser's control of a victim may affect the simplest decision a victim may need
to make. Domestic Violence is a crime by the perpetrator, not the victim. A
batterer must take full responsibility for his or her violent behavior. Mutual
restraining orders are not appropriate.
Abuse escalates in frequency and severityover time. It does not go away without
Research suggests that a short period of incarceration, followed by court ordered
counseling, may stop the cycle of violence. The counseling must be specific in
nature and targeted to stop the abusive situation. There is, however, no guarantee
that an abuser will desist even with the best counseling.
A victim of domestic violence will often lose the ability to view other people's behavior in an objective or neutral light. A victim loses the ability to trust other people. Thus, he or she often feels isolated.
believe that the victim of violence must somehow have invited it, encouraged it,
or even found some kind of satisfaction from it. No victim likes to be abused. Victims
have the same expectations of love, trust and a fulfilling relationship, as we
Studies show in more than half of all
battering incidents, the batterer is under the influence of alcohol or drugs. While
drugs and alcohol do not cause the violence, they are often used as an excuse
for the violence.
Batterers are not all the same.
Some also commit other crimes; they may have a long history of disobeying the law and
violent behavior. Others may respond to psycho-educational programs that help them
learn about proper sex-role socialization, anger and violence management, and
advance techniques that can be used to effectively eliminate violence in their relationships
The National Institute for Criminal Justice Statistics data indicate that 70% of all reported incidents of domestic violence take place after separation from the batterer. Although, from 1976-1987, 38,648 individuals aged 16 and older were killed by their partners. More victims are killed by their male partners who previously abused them, and 39% were men killed by their female partners.